Oh God those eclipses. If you don’t know it yet, this summer was a very intense season of eclipses. I just feel like we’ve been through such a turmoil. Doesn’t it feel good to be getting out of it? At least it does to me.
With the New Moon and the Solar eclipse last Monday, it definitely felt like a great time to have a fresh start and set my intention for the next moon cycle. Which of course I did. You know how I love to bring more magic into my life, and that was the perfect opportunity to do so.
Feeling like a mess, the only word I could think of was clarity. May this new moon cycle bring this cutting-edge, razor sharp thinking. May this new moon cycle bring me closer to alignment between my head and my heart. May this new moon cycle bring me a clear, deep sense of purpose.
Be careful what you wish for my friends, because the Universe will answer. As soon as I’ve set the intention, there was this ah-ah moment where the clouds disappeared and the sun began to enlighten my inner sky.
And it was scary. I knew somehow it was coming, but seing this big, bold vision take shape so clearly was…frightening, to say the least. I thought I had it all figured-out, and it was as if I had just uncovered how much more deeper I could get into this human experience, how much more there was left to discover. It also meant that I wasn’t even close to having become the person I want to be.
I’m all about new adventures. I’m ready to switch gears. I’m taking the Big Leap. I am willing to step out of my comfort zone, my Greatness Zone as Gay Hendricks would put it, to step into my Zone of Genius.
However, saying yes to some big projects implies having to say no to some others. Reading Shonda Rhimes’s Year of Yes makes me realize how powerful it is to say yes when you used to hide, but also how powerful it can be to find your voice and use it to say no to things that won’t get you closer to making your big vision.
Learning to say no is clearly as scary as saying yes to the big vision, if not even more. While we navigate through these grey zones, while we are making a transition from the known to the unknown, here are the three questions I find to be the most helpful when it comes to making sure you’re heading in the right direction.
Does it feel expansive?
Do you feel you are taking more space working on that? Being there? Do you feel you are getting bigger than reality when you are doing this very thing? Do you feel yourself blossoming?
Does it feel nourishing?
Does this work leave you full of energy, or does it suck away all your vitality? Do you feel younger or older as you are going through the day? Does it make you feel more connected, more alive, or does it make you feel alone?
Does it bring you joy?
Never underestimate joy. Fun is a great indicator you are doing great. If something doesn’t feel fun while you’re doing it, there must be another way to make it more enjoyable. If it still doesn’t work, leave it. Seriously. I am realizing these days how precious and short our journey is on this Earth, don’t lose too much time doing something you cannot find interesting, or that doesn’t bring you joy. Yes, sometimes sucking it up and suffering a bit makes us grow, and it ain’t all fun all day, but at the end you must at least be happy about the result, and take away some joy out of it.
Listen. We are all here to make something great. Yes, even when you think you don’t know much, even when you are unsure of what you can bring to the table. Learning to say yes to the things that make you very alive and no to the things that won’t make you grow is the way I believe we can all become the best version of ourselves, contributing to making this place a better place to keep on evolving and growing. So go ahead and use your voice. Use those two powerful words to lead you through your journey. Be clear, be loud.